SarahDarling Checking In! - First Year of Marriage...

Hello all you lovely ladies out there, long time no see right? Well, not exactly. Though I'm not an active poster or commenter on here anymore I do stop by from time to time to see what's shaking - and I only comment when I feel I have something valid to say, but really try to keep that to a minimum. Now that I am a wife (WIFE!) and not a bride I don't really feel like this is my home anymore. But don't be sad! I've started a new blog and would love love love if you guys stopped by to say hi or wanted to follow along. About 6 months ago my husband and I bought a 1922 semi-detached little gem in downtown Toronto and we've been pouring all our energy and free-time into fixing it up and making it ours. This new blog chronicles all our design ideas, missteps and diy projects. I *just* started it at the beginning of the month so it's just a baby still but I have big dreams...
{ThisDarlingHome} (totally appropriate right?)
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{hubby doin his thing in the living room}

Also, yes I am still designing cootie catchers! To date I've had almost 200 sales in my Etsy shop Darling Girl Paper and still going strong. I've decided to offer an exclusive discount to the WBC community because it was you ladies who convinced me to start this business in the first place. For a limited time enter coupon code WBC10 at checkout to get 10% off your design. You can also follow me on my facebook page for access to more coupon codes and sales...
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Ok, so now we come to the part of the post where I can talk about how awesome marriage is. MARRIAGE IS AWESOME!!! If you're prepared for it. Here is what I have learnt in my first year of marriage...

1. Marriage is hard. It is the single most confusing state I have ever found myself to be in. There's no turning it off or walking away and the moment it starts to feel perfectly comfortable you realize how crowded it is. And as soon as you claw back those extra inches of quiet and solitude you begin to see how lonely it can be and all you want is to get wrapped up in it again. 2. Marriage is also incredibly easy. Being part of a team makes tasks 99% easier. And because this person is legally partnered with you they're sorta obligated to help you install new interior doors or make dinner for 8 people. I always have someone to lean on and talk through my bad days with, he's there when I go to bed and I know who's making breakfast on Sundays. 3. Nothing and everything changes. We are still the same people we were before. We still watch the same movies, laugh at the same fart jokes and act like irresponsible adults. But now we are husband and wife. I get to introduce Jeff as my husband and that immediately changes peoples perspective of us. It's like some switch gets flipped in peoples brains and all of a sudden we are taken more seriously, which is nice but also sad that society uses this label as an excuse to treat you differently.
4. You lose a little bit of yourself. I used to be Sarah, and now I am part of the Sarah&Jeff Dynamic Duo. It seems that along with my marriage and new last name I've added a whole extra person to my identity. The question isn't, "what are you doing this weekend?" it has become "what are you&Jeff doing this weekend?" Although I appreciate peoples efforts to include my loved one, I also wouldn't mind being treated as an individual.

5. Agree to disagree. I am right 99% of the time, coincidentally so is Jeff. The good thing about being human beings is that we don't have to agree on everything. And the things that never used to matter when we were dating now have the potential to explode into full blown arguments...until we realize we are not the same person and having different opinions is what keeps things interesting.

6. Marriage is a secret club. Once you're married too I'll show you the secret handshake. 7. I am incredibly lucky. Incredibly lucky to have found someone who not only puts up with my bullshit and ridiculousness, but finds it adorable and comes back for more. He laughs at my jokes and funny faces and knows just what to say to make me smile at the end of a long day. He works harder than any person I know and still comes home looking for ways to make my life easier. Jeff is more than I ever dreamed of, more than I ever thought was possible and more than I ever felt I deserved. This turned out to be a long one...if you're still with me here is my parting message. The ladies on this site are amazing and there's so many of you I miss. And I still love receiving emails from new brides who have found my blog and have questions or ideas they want to share with me. Keep em coming! I love getting those emails and dipping a toe back into the wedding planning world.

Much Love
MrsSarahDarling
xoxox

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